My husband's fraternity brother is a big drinker and loud talker. He's one of the groomsmen. I'm worried that he's going to cause a scene at the reception. What should I do?

Having a trusted friend or the wedding coordinator be aware of the potential problem and stay alert during the wedding and reception is a must. If frat boy decides to act up, this person redirects him or escorts him out. If you are extremely concerned, you might consider hiring a security agent or off duty police officer to mingle with the guests and intervene if necessary.

I can't sleep at night. I keep going over details of the wedding and wondering how I'll get everything done before the big day. Is there something besides drugs that will help me sleep?

In your head, try subtracting from 100 by 7's. It will be 100-7= 93-7 =86-7= 79… Continue this until you get to the lowest number (2). If you are still awake, repeat the process until you fall asleep. The brain can't worry and subtract at the same time. Pleasant dreams!

The person baking my wedding cake doesn't understand what I want. I'm afraid the cake is going to look horrible. Is there something I can do about this?

First of all, interviewing more than one baker prior to putting down your deposit helps you feel more secure about your choice. However, in your case, it sounds like you've already committed to this individual. Reputable cake designers appreciate brides being specific. Bringing magazine photographs or personal drawings of your dream cake helps them see the details your have in mind. If your relationship is positive, perhaps the two of you can sketch it out together. If you continue to feel antsy about it, you can voice your concern and ask to be referred to another designer, or you can change your expectations and enjoy the cake that this baker is able to create. What seems like a crisis at the moment can become a funny memory in the future.